So then, what is forgiveness and its benefits? Because He loves everyone, God never instructs us to do anything that is not for our good. Forgiveness heals us regarding our past memories, hurts and experiences. Our decision to forgive results in personal wellness as we welcome a new perspective which arrives through emotional freedom. The past will no longer dominate us in thought or action. Forgiving improves our relationship with God and greatly benefits us by removing resentment and bitterness. It can also heal us physically as stressful and unhealthy thoughts leave us. Forgiveness frees us from negative past experiences as we confront and deal with reality - it allows us to choose our future, to set up goals and to move on with our life.
An unforgiving person may hope that by continuing in an attitude of anger that this will be a way to be sure the person who has hurt them is punished. Many people do not want to risk forgiving someone because they believe their violator will then be empowered while they are still hurting and suffering. Actually, an offender may not care at all about how we feel and has gone on with their life without giving the injured person a thought. Unfortunately, we may spend years of experiencing hate and resentment, but the only person we hurt is ourselves which often affects our physical and emotional health.
A common area of concern is in the workplace. Many times there are conflicts because of differences in personalities and also from situations that develop from prideful attitudes and harmful gossip. Can we peacefully exist with our employers and co-workers?
Is it possible to forgive one another, while still harboring bitterness and pain of the circumstances?
Forgiveness is a decision that we make regarding our situation. It is not a feeling. This does not mean that we forget what has happened in the past or ignore our current struggle. It does not mean that we must now associate with a person who is responsible for our situation. Simply put, forgiveness is a means God has provided in order to release us from the bondage of control that it has over our life. Those who choose not to forgive remain stuck in the past and as a result, they re-live their pain and suffering daily and have no meaningful future.