There is a serious spiritual consequence if we remain in an attitude of un-forgiveness. We are reminded in Matthew 6:14-15;18:35, Mark 11:25-26, Luke 6:37 if we choose not to forgive, God will not forgive us. Romans 3:23 clearly states “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God”. This means that every one of us is guilty and in need of God’s forgiveness.
As a Bible believing Christian, how do we forgive someone? When I began to study the Bible, it became very evident to me that this was an area that I wanted to resolve if I was to experience a desired relationship with Jesus Christ. As a result, I read the Bible regarding this topic, in order to find out as much biblical information as possible. My pastor was also always available for guidance through the study of Holy Scripture. I had already received conviction that there were people in my life that I had not forgiven due to their past attitudes, words and actions that deeply hurt me. I questioned God as to how I was going to overcome this situation. The answer is one that everyone can receive. In prayer and sincerity, go to the foot of the cross and see Jesus who through His life, crucifixion and resurrection, forgave all of mankind for every past, present or future sin that we could ever commit (it is very sad that many will refuse His gift of love). As we begin to understand the depth of His suffering and unselfish decision to endure the unspeakable for our benefit, it will become clear that whatever we have experienced in our life pales in comparison. Our heart (mind) will then be ready to begin the healing process to forgive a person who has injured us.
When a person has been profoundly hurt, forgiveness may take time. Although God is aware of all that has taken place during our lifetime and we cannot hide our feelings from Him, we must talk with God about our pain and anger. As we begin the steps to deal with our situation, this may also include sharing with a close friend who has spiritual wisdom who will listen and offer guidance. Another avenue for healing is through a safe group environment which is managed by a qualified counselor.
May you choose to look upon each person you encounter through the eyes of Jesus. He is no respecter of persons and loves everyone equally, freely offering His grace and mercy. We must leave the judgment of each individual to God and have confidence that He is fair and just.
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