The Daily Item, Sunbury, PA

Business

February 21, 2014

Watercooler: No, it's not 'just a joke' or a 'compliment'

Karla L. Miller writes an advice column on navigating the modern workplace. Each week she will answer one or two questions from readers.

Reader 1: I work in a small, laid-back office where only 4 percent of us are women. My issue is the inappropriate sexual comments I've heard men in the office make about some of the other women. For example, one woman sometimes wraps herself in a blanket when cold; one guy said, "She's probably masturbating under the blanket."

I enjoy my work, and my immediate co-worker doesn't participate in the inappropriate talk. I'm just interested in keeping a level of professionalism.

A: For a quick response that will set boundaries without throwing up barricades, try a strong, assertive "Wow" or a so-over-it "Really?" Your more evolved male colleagues might even help chill the eighth-grade locker-room talk if made aware of your discomfort.

If you don't see improvement, follow your company's procedure for reporting issues. A lawyer can suggest ways to word it, but the gist is: Women in your office are being repeatedly targeted with demeaning, inappropriate comments.

It's possible that any management action will simply generate grumbling about "political correctness" while the bad behavior goes underground. If the incidents continue or worsen, start documenting; when they reach critical mass, go back to HR. Retaliation is illegal — and often lands offenders in worse trouble than the initial comments.

Reader 2: During a recent lunch with our company's top executives, one of our younger male employees, talking about healthy eating, pointed to me (female) and made a comment about my being thin, using his hands to illustrate my body shape. His supervisor was not there, but she eventually spoke to him, reluctantly, at my request.

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