The Daily Item, Sunbury, PA


May 3, 2013

Watercooler: Is This 'Dream Job' Really Worth It?

— Q: I just got my dream job a week ago as executive assistant to the managing director of a business. I will also do special projects for the business owner, who is well known in the local music industry. On my second day of work, when my boss was out, the owner asked if I would like to see a music video he had made. He proceeded to show me a video of himself receiving oral sex. He then told me it would be best if I did not share this with my boss.

Of course, I told my boss, who included me on a call to our outsourced HR department. During the call, my boss mentioned a former intern at the business who had left prematurely; it was clear to me she left because of something the owner had done. My boss, a father himself, seems to be very protective, and has insisted the owner come in only two days a week for now. The owner has been extremely respectful toward me since then.

Is there anything else I should do? I want to keep this job, but I am on a three-month probationary period and want to protect myself.

A: Would your "protective" boss make his own daughter spend two days a week hanging around a viper? Because that's essentially what he's doing to you.

Make no mistake: That Ron Jeremy wannabe is a sicko. This isn't about telling an off-color joke or misinterpreting a situation. His behavior is predatory and clearly a pattern.

You've done all the right things so far. If you want to go further, talk to an officer at your local police station about the possibility of pressing charges — yes, I'm serious — and how you can protect yourself. Document the incident and anything else the owner does that makes you uncomfortable. Ask your boss if he can change your job so you don't have to report to the owner.

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