The Daily Item, Sunbury, PA

May 2, 2013

Let’s go a little deeper with job-hunting advice

By Liz Reyer
Star Tribune (Minneapolis) (MCT)

— Readers do not pull their punches. And I make an effort to learn from every comment.

Recently I received an email in response to a column regarding job hunting:

“Just read your column responding to what the person was doing wrong in their search. Your answer was the same generic job hunting advice everyone looking for work has heard a million times.“

This was thought-provoking; I deliberated on it for some time and found that there is certainly an element of truth to this. In that case, what could provide the support that people need in challenging situations?

My conclusion? In many situations, we all know what we should do. If you want to lose weight, eat less and move more. If you want to find a new job, update your resume and network. Easy, right? And, in fact, the basic steps are straightforward. But it easily falls apart in the execution.

It takes a lot of self-discipline to actually make a change. It requires making a plan (easy) and working the plan (hard). A myriad of barriers to success will inevitably spring up, and achieving goals requires overcoming each of them.

Otherwise, all you have is a fantasy, not a goal.

So, taking it to the next level, here are some things to think about when pursuing a goal.

-What will you do when you’re disappointed? Job searches have disappointment built into them, almost by definition, because few are offered the first job they apply for. And only you control your reaction to that disappointment.

If your response is harsh, either anger against the potential employer or negative judgment of yourself, try turning that around to acceptance that this is part of the process. If you find that you’re inclined to just give up, take a deep look inside: Is that how you react to all challenges, or is this one different?

-What will you do when you’re tired of the pursuit? Every goal has a boring aspect, and practicing scales or writing yet another cover letter can get old. Think about breaking down “self-discipline“ into some concrete steps you can take. Identifying energizers and rewards can help: “I’ll get one more done, then I can walk around the block.“

Remind yourself of the value of your current activity to your goal. Make sure you have enough fun in your life so that this isn’t the only thing taking up your time and emotional energy,

-What if you really dislike doing the things that need to be done? Evaluate your plan to make it fit your preferences as much as possible. Many people think they dislike networking, for example, and have a stereotype in their mind of business-style speed dating. What if you convert that to connecting with people from your past that you know and like? Build in the pieces you like less in manageable chunks, and ask for support to help with them.

-What if you hate asking for support? That’s a topic for another column!



Liz Reyer is a credentialed coach with more than 20 years of business experience. Her company, Reyer Coaching & Consulting, offers services for organizations of all sizes. Submit questions or comments about this column at www.deliverchange.com/coachscorner or email her at l lizdeliverchange.com.