Don't expect children to have a bad reaction. "You don't want to cross-examine your child about how he is feeling about this news," Mogel said. "Have the conversation and then just observe them for any signs of distress."
What are some signs that your child is upset? "For younger kids, you'll see difficulty sleeping, tummy aches, headaches," Mogel said. If your child shows those signs, "then more reassuring discussion is in order," she added.
Talk about bigger topics with older kids. Discussions about "political issues, gun safety and how laws and society protect us" can be a good way for parents and teenagers to have productive conversations about the tragedy, Mogel said.